Appearance and age do not matter. "Decisive people" are cool
"Decisive" people can take risks, make choices, act, and take responsibility
According to a survey conducted by the Institute for Customer Life and Culture in 1740 people in 2004, 47.2% of the respondents answered that "decisiveness" is the factor that makes men feel "cool", while that for women is 1st. It ranked second with 45.4%.
People who are responsible for their choices, take risks and make strong decisions can certainly be cool!
If you have the decisiveness, you are likely to be positive and refreshing.
Are there any advantages/disadvantages to all options?
However, it's not only that it's so easy to divide in white or black, but it's also important to get lost.
"Both have merit and demerit and there is no deciding factor." "I choose A for emotions, but I say that reason is B."
It is painful to have such a conflict.
Shopping, work, selection of marriage partner... How many decisions do you make in an adult's daily life?
According to a survey of 2000 Americans, adults made about 70 decisions a day.
Whether to throw things away or not, what clothes to wear, what transportation to get to, where to go, what to buy, how to spend the weekend, what insurance to buy Who would you choose, and so on...
Decisiveness is action. What is the speed at which a "decisive person" makes a decision?
How fast are organizational leaders and CEOs making decisions?
How long does a "decisive person" spend on one decision?
The CEO responsible for business decision-making must be a person who has the power to make decisions.
According to Columbia University psychologist Sina Eyenger, a close study of CEOs found that CEOs were involved in 139 jobs in a week, with 50% of decisions made within 9 minutes.
About 12% of the decisions took more than an hour.
The faster you make a decision, the less time you have to hesitate and the more time you have to act. It can be said that determination is also action.
However, there is also the possibility that you will "decisively act and make regrets."
Then, how can you acquire the "decision power" to make choices that you will not regret?
6 ways to make decisions
1. Decisiveness is limited. What can be improved to improve dull decision making
Don't get lost for a long time. Discard everything except "decide what you really need"
Even when buying hundreds of yen, we start collecting information from the spirit of "I don't want to miss a better choice and lose money". What is the feature? Such.
However, when more than 10 alternatives are presented at one time, human decision-making ability slows down. If you spend a great deal of time comparing and comparing information about products that do not differ much, you may be exhausted and unable to focus on important decisions.
Let's save our determination power in case of the last moment.
If you are not particular about it, you can narrow down to two options and decide with a coin toss. ・Continue to use the one you have decided "This".
It's also good to leave it to the clerk or someone with knowledge to recommend.
If you make an important decision, before you lose your decision
In the evening, I have already made many decisions and I am tired.
I'm tired of seriously considering it because I'm tired, and I sometimes choose "the one with no hassle" and fail.
It's okay if you don't care about what you choose, but it's best to finish important decisions in the morning.
2. The reason for lack of determination may be that the goals are ambiguous. Clarify the "goal"
If the "goal" of what you are satisfied with as a result of your decision is ambiguous, all options will look good and you will not be able to choose. I regret that "I should have chosen a different option" if it does not work a little...
Let's clarify the "goal".
Look for your own goals, not someone else's.
To make your own decisions, it is recommended that you write "What and how will I be satisfied" in one line.
Please write "only one" that you want to do, the condition you want to have, etc., "I am satisfied with this even if other conditions are bad".
Clarify your goals and choose your choices.
3. Clarify the criteria for withdrawal
For example, if the goal is to reach the summit of the mountain, it is a fall at the end of the accident if there is an accident.
Regardless of work or human relations, it is recommended to clarify the "withdrawal criteria" that "I will do my best so far, but stop if I cross this line."
Each person has their own criteria for withdrawal, but if there is no such thing, then everything will be chained together, and it will be good to think based on what you want to protect, such as worth living.
"I will stop myself when I am about to run out of sleep time." "I will stop if I have no time with my family."
People who are doing their best now tend to keep trying, saying, "I can still do my best," so think about what you want to protect in advance.
4. To acquire decision-making... Understand and polish your own values
To determine your own goals, you need to understand your values.
It is also recommended that you keep a daily diary to refine what you like, what you dislike, and when you are truly satisfied.
Which option is closest to your values?
Which option can you spend your days feeling comfortable and comfortable?
Alternatively, it may be helpful to think of what you want to be and how you want to be.
Which choice would you choose if you were your ideal self?
Think about which option you can be proud of.
5. Make a forecast for each case
"Decision" involving experience, insight, emotion, and intuition
People do not make decisions based on rationality. Experience, insight, emotions, and intuition are deeply involved. When you make a decision, it's painful to think about the choices you haven't made.
In order not to regret even if your heart is hurt, you need to have a basis and a sense of convincing. If you have multiple options, we recommend that you make a specific forecast for each case.
"What happens to the future if you choose option A?" "If it is B or C?"
Make a future prediction when you select A, B, C, and write down as concretely as possible and compare.
However, if you just write in words, you will only see the conditions and miss the subtle "intuition" or unconsciously sensed "signs of the future."
Capture intuition as an image
If possible, take some time and draw a picture. You can use any kind of painting material, even if you don't draw well.
Intuitively draw a picture with the image of "A future, B future" for each option. Rather than aiming for an aesthetic color scheme or harmony, choose a color that is close to what you feel. Let's compare if possible.
6. Make full use of your imagination. Watch "put it in your area"
Wouldn't you say "I found a nice miscellaneous item in the shop and bought it, but when I put it in my room... it was something different".
The things that are totally coordinated and shining in the store may not match the taste of your room.
When deciding on private things, it will be easier to grasp by replacing it with the situation when arranging the options in a place with a sense of life such as "my room" or "a place where I can call my home" .. Is it familiar to you?